That which has been Diagnosed... and Dismissed

Diagnosed...  
After ten months of searching, I find myself grateful for healing and reflective about the journey.  I find myself contemplating my condition... a condition which I have given the term:

Pegerdesibssalobues

This is most definitely not an official diagnosis... rather it's my own personalized noun for all the acronyms of the (known and probable) factors of my health.  To be sure, I've taken the liberty of adding a few of my own letters to the mix.  I admit that unpacking all of the acronyms I've added together would necessitate a lengthy one-on-one conversation.

If we're considering the purely medically relevant factors, the three most essential components of it are:

• PE (pulmonary emboli), 
• GERD (Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease) and 
• ES (Esophageal Spasms).  

Although the most recent results are not definitive, it is relieving to be able to proactively treat the pain and pressure.  [Insert happy dance here].

I have had a bit of time following this new development which has led me to a new step.  This step involves me coming to a point in recognizing the strengths and weaknesses of the things that have been dismissed in the process of coming to (and following) this diagnosis.  Talking about the dismissed aspects is hard for me as, in most ways, they represent loss, frustration and regret; however, I hope that sharing my experience may help others in their own journeys.

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Dismissing the significance of a condition...

One of the most important things I have learned from the pulmonary emboli is this: if you think that there is something wrong, seek medical attention.  Don't dismiss it: pursue solutions, self-advocate and, above all, never give up.    

Dismissing a condition as insignificant...

It happens more often than we think.  I found the following quote from an author who suffers from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome interesting.    

Most people, when they hear the disease name, it's all they know about it. It sounds so mild. When I first was sick, for the first 10 years or so, I was dismissed. 

~ Laura Hillenbrand

When I was first told about the GERD, I have to admit that I dismissed it pretty much altogether.  In comparison to the rest of the journey with the PE condition and in relation to symptoms that I felt were likely connected to my heart, acid reflux seemed benign.  

However learning about GERD and about Esophageal Spasms from a new perspective changed my understanding of the conditions.  I have thought a lot about the last consult which led me to the discernment about taking what seemed to be an insignificant factor (esophagus inflammation and spasms) into a much more serious consideration.  

About GERD:

... about this painful and uncomfortable health condition.  Some people will mistake GERD with heart burn.  This is because GERD symptoms can be very similar.  In a way, GERD is just an extreme and severe version of heartburn.  First, we need to talk about the causes of this illness.  There are many causes, such as obesity, that can cause the problem.  Generally this will lead to the sphincter that connects the esophagus to the stomach becoming faulty.  In a healthy body, this opening will only open when food needs to pass into the stomach.  It will then close for the remainder of the time.  This helps prevent the stomach acids from reaching the esophagus.  While the stomach can handle these acids, the esophagus can’t, which will cause damage.  GERD patients will have stomach acid going into their esophagus on a regular basis, causing discomfort, pain and damage.  GERD symptoms can be quite severe.  Think of how it feels to have heartburn.  This is uncomfortable and painful.  Well, GERD is similar but feels much worse.

About Esophageal Spasms:

Esophageal spasms are painful muscle contractions that affect your esophagus. Your esophagus is a long hollow tube that runs from your throat to your stomach.  Esophageal spasms can feel like sudden, severe chest pain that lets up after a few minutes. Esophageal spasms usually occur infrequently.

But for some people, esophageal spasms are frequent and severe. The muscle contractions may prevent food and liquids from traveling properly through your esophagus. Esophageal spasms can lead to chronic swallowing problems and pain.

I am beyond thankful for the improvement since the treatments have started. The pain is being progressively reduced in both intensity and frequency; the nausea and exhaustion no longer eclipses all activity; and small increments in increased energy have led me to a new kind of hope that healing is a reality.  

Learning first hand about the benefits of not being dismissed:

When a specialist admitted that he did not understand why completely unrelated and significant conditions manifested in my otherwise healthy body, I finally found myself in a place of acceptance.  

It seemed so counter intuitive to me that a medical professional's acknowledgement of not knowing the source (and not having answers for symptomatic concerns) was incredibly helpful.  However, after being dismissed numerous times along the way, receiving the response "I don't know" combined with the fact that the concerns were legitimate changed everything.  

Dismissing other factors of health...
In the last few weeks I have taken a new inventory on the impact of stress in my life.  I have recognized that dismissing stress and other emotional aspects impacting my life means dismissing important components of health.  I will be contemplating this stress inventory in the days to come as it is an important part of my journey.   In the meantime, the definition by the World Health Organization of health reminds me that health is not merely not being sick:

"Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity."

Choosing to dismiss other factors of health...
These are the things that I choose to dismiss.  I choose to dismiss the other peripheral concerns which have come to light through this process about my physical condition... this includes even the source of the pulmonary emboli.  The term 'unprovoked' with relation to the clots is limited at best as the clots were provoked by some factor; I have concluded that, at least this time, the source will remain unknown to me.  Choosing to dismiss this question - primarily the question "why?" - is a conscious decision.  In it's stead, I choose health and gratefulness for the days that I have.

All the same, the hematology specialist emphasized the importance of recognizing the fact that the unprovoked nature of the clots requires diligence on my part.  Lifelong preventative measures - in the straightforward method of anticoagulants - are his recommendation.  Undeniably my life has changed and this is one area that I cannot dismiss though I choose to no longer search for an answer.

Not dismissing the other definitions of healing... 
I am currently parked on one facet of the definition of healing - that of healing in the sense of 'to be made whole'.

The following is from a definition about healing which I have reframed to fit my own faith-based perspective though the foundational objectives are extremely important.

What Is Healing?

“Healing is a spontaneous event that comes about through a kind of grace. It can happen anytime, and in any place. It may or may not happen in the context of a healing session. It may come about simply with a smile from a stranger, the breeze blowing through the trees, the song of a bird — some reminder of our connectedness and wholeness — the beauty of Life just as it is at this moment for us.  Healing can happen on many different levels. Sometimes our healing is not what we expect. We need to be open to the gifts which life is always ready to give us. It may be that a physical problem heals, but it may also stay awhile to teach us something. Sometimes a health challenge is a doorway to a deeper healing, a cry from deep within for attention to some part of us that has been unloved and feels separated from the Whole.  Regardless of whether our focus in healing is on the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual level, all levels are invariably touched by the process, and none can be separated out from the rest.” — Mary Maddux

The Merriam-Webster dictionary gives the following definitions of healing:
1. to make sound or whole
2. to restore to health
3. to cause (an undesirable condition) to be overcome
4. to restore to original purity or integrity
5. to return to a sound state

“to make sound or whole”…
Although it is clear from these definitions that the word “healing” can be used in very broad ways, it most often refers to healing of the physical body, as in the healing of a disease of injury. It is also frequently used to indicate healing of mental, psychological, and emotional conditions. For those who are spiritually inclined, “to make sound or whole” would have to include the spiritual dimension of life, as well.

Immeasurably More than diagnosed and dismissed... 

Taking account of the 'Pegerdesibsalobues' is a reflection of the fact that this journey has been immeasurably more than I could've imagined at this stage of my life.

I will not deny that this has been intensely hard... and I find myself using the expression "on so many levels" to describe it.  There have been a handful of times that I've taken account of what this 30-something body has gone through in the last two years.  From being in awe of the experience of a twin pregnancy to the frustration felt in the depths of intense pain, I often can't believe that this has been my journey.

Contrasting the overwhelming number of physical elements to the blessings (and now to the healing) I have experienced has been the kind of perspective that changes everything.  It has led to hope, peace, and joy: three elements that cannot be overlooked in complete healing.

Ultimately, well beyond that which has been diagnosed and that which has been dismissed, I am thankful.  

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¹⁹The LORD's people may suffer a lot,

   but he will always

   bring them safely through.

Psalm 34:19 (CEV)

Under Pressure

Waiting.  I'm learning a lot about waiting.


Waiting for different times of the day, waiting for the end of a lengthy work set, waiting for news, waiting for results, waiting for Spring, waiting for decisions, waiting for my little guys' words to develop, waiting for information... there's a lot of waiting these days.


I love this quote cited by Joyce Gulliford in "The Waiting Place" Wisdom of Dr. Suess:
"Waiting is the springboard to the rest of my journey. Waiting is active participation in what is today and leaving behind yesterday, not worrying about tomorrow."

While I'm waiting, I'm listening to some pretty amazing artists; from my favourites on the playlist these days: Remind Me Who I Am, Ocean, and Awakened.


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Stress.  I'm learning a lot about stress.  

My husband's shift work and production-focused work environment are sources of pressure; being a mother of four, I feel diverted in every direction of the compass: surveying toddlers, redirecting a preschooler, supporting the learning of an active grade 1 student and taking care of a (chaotic) household is a juggling act; working through health challenges (additionally losing my voice last week then battling a cold this week) is exhausting as well as frustrating; and although we know change is on the horizon, for now everything is uncertain; ultimately, this leaves me in a state of pressurized waiting.  

I am learning the intricacies of faith and trust in action.  I finding myself meditating on Psalm 62 and insights of wisdom from trusted mentors and perspective found in a myriad of resources.

Wait for the Lord: "Right timing is critical in a believers walk with the Lord. However trusting His timing in important decision, uncertain direction, or pressing needs is extremely difficult when everything within us cries, "Do something!" Because we want action, waiting for God seems so passive.  To wait for the Lord means to pause for further instruction while remaining in the present circumstance. It is a purposeful, expectant focus on God- a choice to be actively still and quiet in out heart, listening for His voice and watching for His intervention. The wait is not for events to work out as we want, but rather for God's will to be done. [...]  Are you seeking Him or the thing you want from Him? Because He alone knows what is best for you, let go and trust His choice." ~ From August 2010 In Touch magazine by Dr. Charles Stanley

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In some moments of fleeting chaos, I am aware of the situational pressure I am facing.  It is hard to ignore when it takes 20 minutes to get out the door with four children in different states of duress.  I haven't seen the movie, but here's the version of Under Pressure from Happy Feet 2.  

Why - why - why ?
Love love love love love
Insanity laughs under pressure we're cracking
Can't we give ourselves one more chance
Why can't we give love that one more chance
Why can't we give love give love give love give love
give love give love give love give love give love
'Cause love's such an old fashioned word
And love dares you to care for
The people on the edge of the night
And loves dares you to change our way of
Caring about ourselves

~ David Bowie/Queen "Under Pressure"

I feel these lyrics.  I also connect with two other songs connected to the movie: Don't Stop Believin' and Bridge of Light (you can read the lyrics and see the video here).  Hope is possible only through belief.   

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Hope also involves the individual recognizing the reality of a given situation and acknowledging the challenges that she needs to face.  


And hope is what gets you through to the other side.


On the one hand, my reality is this:

It is undeniable that I am overwhelmed in ways that are immeasurably more than I could've imagined; however, my family and I are blessed in ways that are impossible to enumerate.

Therefore, on the other hand, my reality is this:

Hope in meaningful gestures: touching my life by coming alongside and connecting with my children, spending their time and energy on us in a time of need, applying their skills and talents to pour love into our family, we have been surrounded by individuals and families who care deeply about both the daily and big picture challenges that we've been facing.


They 
give love give love give love give love
give love give love give love give love give love
'Cause love's such an old fashioned word
And love dares you to care
...pressure is made manageable
and lives are changed.


Thank you.

Pictures of Hope

Hope is one of our central emotions, but we are often at a loss when asked to define it.  Many of us confuse hope with optimism, a prevailing attitude that "things turn out for the best." But hope differs from optimism.

Hope does not arise from being told to "think positively," or from hearing an overly rosy forecast.  Hope, unlike optimism, is rooted in unalloyed reality. 

Hope is the elevating feeling we experience when we see - in the mind's eye - a path to a better future.  Hope acknowledges the significant obstacles and deep pitfalls along that path.  True hope has no room for delusion.  Clear-eyed, hope gives us the courage to confront our circumstances and the capacity to surmount them.

~ from The Anatomy of Hope by Jerome Groopman, M.D.

I took the photo above during a particularly cold morning walk into the school to pick up my son.  Taken on my ipod, the quality is questionable...  it's impossible to see the frost that coated the branches or the snow crystals reflecting the light in this photo.  Even though it does not appear so in this image, in my mind's eye, it truly was a thing of beauty.  

With my ipod in hand, permit me to share the following ~ a picture journal from tonight:

Thank You and Thursdays

The hot cup of coffee, 

an answered prayer;

A kindred spirit sharing laughter 

in the midst of loss;

The symbolism of something greater 

in the most simplest of forms.

The choices we make - 

choosing joy, choosing peace;

Scraps of memories rediscovered 

though distance separates;

The kind gesture 

of a beautiful heart.

These are the things,

and this is the stuff...

Surrounded by love,

rooted in grace ~

the Blessing of

Immeasurably more.  

Still

When I came home from the salon Thursday, my eldest son said: "you look like you looked as a teenager... but better!".

Needless to say, he got the biggest brownie at dessert.

How am I doing?  Well.  Really well.  Although my medical condition has not improved, I have decided that my assessment of how I am doing is rooted more in how I am living.

In some ways, my health experience has felt like a House episode playing out over months instead of 40 minutes.  The episode isn't over yet.  The interesting thing about this condition is that, for all intents and purposes, it remains invisible and a complex mystery for the medical community to unravel.

So I'm going to let them.  Don't get me wrong, I am an active participant in pursuing my health care - I am very engaged in the process.  However, through a lengthy process, providential intervention, an amazing physician who has been actively pursuing all possibilities, and - most importantly - faith, I am finally earnestly confident in my care.

And in the waiting, the true surrender to waiting, the pivot occurred.  Peripetia happened in my heart, not in my situation.  

I am no longer analyzing, researching or assessing.  Instead, I am fascinated by where this journey has led me.  In reading In the Likeness of God, I am having revelation after revelation about the phenomenal way humans are formed.  As in the journeys I was fortunate to take in pregnancy, this illness can be an opportunity for learning, discovering and appreciating the miracle of the human body.

"Men go abroad to wonder 
at the height of mountains, 
at the huge waves of the sea, 
at the long courses of the rivers, 
at the compass of the ocean, 
at the circular motion of the stars, 
and they pass by themselves without wondering." 


~ St. Augustine.    

My perspective has also turned to the understand that there are positive effects to be celebrated even in the situations where we are - if not just seasonally - metaphorically in the dark. The study of scotobiology is the study of darkness.  It is a relatively new field of science and it "lays the foundation for understanding the importance of dark night skies, not only for humans but for all biological species."  Scotobiology is the study of the positive responses to darkness.  As described in the link, darkness is seldom absolute.

I will give you the treasures of darkness, riches stored in secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who summons you by name. ~Isaiah 45:3

This is about a new focus.

I'm not putting on the blinders.  Besides being impossible when facing physical pain, it just doesn't seem in character with my desire to be authentic.  Instead I am changing the way I look at things.  I've thought about it in the way of blurring my peripheral vision by wearing my glasses instead of my contacts.  In needing to shift focus, I need to move in a new direction... away from the unknowns and towards the known.  

As a wise mentor of mine told me yesterday morning, there is the ability to serve even in moments such as this.

This is about the kind of faith that can change your life.  This is a good thing.

Yes, I "will stil haf to wait"; all the same,
I am still seeking joy.
I am still living out my life.
I am still being used by God.
I am still.
I know He is God.

Peripetia

Trust your unknown future to a known God

Shared by an amazing source of encouragement, this quote has stuck with me.  I don't think any of us quite comprehend the uncertainty of the future until we face something big.

I met a coworker at the lab during one of my bloodwork appointments.  I had not seen her since my college days ended in 2010 and in the course of the conversation, she asked what I had been doing since we had last seen each other.  I tried to quickly come up with a summary of my journey... and since the timeline started with the arrival of the twins, there seemed to be a lot to catch up on.  I came home and asked my husband how he would sum it up.  He replied, "the pain, the pain - it hurts!" (this made me laugh - and still can bring a smile - particularly since he knows me so well by leaving room for me to add the punctuation).

A week ago Saturday found me in a place of set back with my condition - "the pain, the pain - it hurts!".  And in this place I realized once again how fragile I am.

How quickly I had forgotten.

I am thankful that the intensity of the pain has lessened to an ebb and flow of uncomfortable pressure.  All the same, I am frustrated by my lack of energy and the persistence of a medical condition which I cannot understand.

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"Understanding will never bring you peace that is why I've instructed you to trust me.  Humans have a voracious appetite to figure things out to have a mastery of our lives.  We need to cease seeking mastery and start seeking our Master." [paraphrased from Sarah Young "Jesus Calling: Seeking Peace in His Presence"].

This quote comes from a phenomenal sermon in the E100 series at SPAC.  The timing of listening to this sermon (and I can say the same for the School of Faith) couldn't have been more perfect.  There are seasons in your life where "the weary days of waiting are often days that are big with spiritual destiny but they are hard to be endured." (F. B Meyer)

In these weary days of waiting - days where I feel like I've been hit by a train and am therefore am incapacitated in so many ways - I wage war with my emotions. I'm feeling the vertigo from the swing from the depths of regret to the heights of gratefulness.

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Regret: I feel inclined to apologise.  Without a doubt, it's in my nature to apologise.  This time, the scope has a trajectory which goes a little further from that where I say "I'm sorry" when all that was needed was a polite "excuse me" as I let someone pass in the grocery aisle.

In the way I'd like to voice my regrets, I want to apologise for all those times that I haven't been able to be or be there for those who I care so much about.  I feel compelled to apologise to my husband, my young sons, my family by birth, my family by heart, and my amazing friends - for the impact of burden or of absence.  My physical condition has left me - for months - at a capacity of doing so little.  

The old version of 'me' was fueled by an energy (and, undeniably, a hot cup of strong coffee) that allowed me to swing my children into my arms, into their carseats on the way to a play excursion, and into a variety of activities that we enjoyed together.  That old version could go and do and experience.  My abilities limited, my geography restrained, I am finding joy in doing, going and experiencing within these four walls - within this ministry to my boys.

Nevertheless, coming to terms with the physical and emotional transition by accepting that I am still in one peace has been nothing less than an exercise of faith.

And, in faith, I am waiting for my peripetia.

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Gratefulness: Already fragile, it is incredibly humbling to (yet again) accept the help that I have received from friends who have given so much while they've delegated their own tasks to come to my aid.  From going above and beyond the call of friendship to practical nurturing of my boys, these women have demonstrated an unending source of the fruit of the spirit for us.  They have cared for me, my children and my house when I have been infirm and recovering.

All the same, it is hard for an independent mother who enjoys caring for others to be on the receiving end of kindnesses, given all the kindness we've been blessed with.  From the  arrival of the twins to the beginning of this recovery, we have had love lavished on us in a thousand ways.  I grapple with my pride as much as with my weakness - my gratefulness is never eclipsed by my desire to give back; however, there are times where I am brought to tears by the goodness gift wrapped to us in the forms of gestures that mean so much.

As I have mentioned in a previous post, how can I even begin to thank them for their immeasurable kindness?

Perhaps even more beautiful than their compassion is their ability to illustrate Christianity in action to my young sons; each has poured out love in an intensely personal way to our family.

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In one of those moments that I just needed a bit of encouragement, my current Beth Moore study guide fell open to the second last page of my book.  There I found this quote written by an unknown author:

I believe in the sun, even when it is not shining.
I believe in love, even when I do not feel it.
I believe in God, even when He is silent.

I don't understand this medical condition; I don't understand grief or loss; and most importantly, what I don't understand outweighs what I do understand.  I have grown on this journey with a new understanding of gratefulness, thankfulness, and blessings as much as I have been growing in an understanding of regret, pain, and limitations.

Perhaps the most significant understanding - and the best summary of my journey - is this:

I believe.

"You will Stil haf to wait"

A few days before Christmas Nate wrote, illustrated and compiled a book of four short stories entitled "The Best Christmas."  I am including a selection here (the facial expressions add quite a bit to the plot):

'Title Page: "The Best Christmas" dy Nate'

Final Chapter Title Page: "When will Somer come"

"When will IT Be Somer"

"You will Haf To Wait."

"You will Stil haf to Wait."

"You Will Stil haf To Wait."

"now IT is Somer now"

"ThE EnD"

"You will Stil haf to wait".  Patience: not my strong suit.  There is so much I want to do.  There is so much I want to be.  

pa·tience

 [pey-shuhns] 

noun

1.

the quality of being patient, as the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.

2.

an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.

3.

quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence: to work with patience.

My application of the definition:
1.  Each day (in a myriad of situations) I find myself working on this quality of patience through living out love... love bears all things.   
2.  God has a lot of patience with me - the slow learner of faith.
3.  Although it may not be my strong suit, my patience is in the process of being refined into a place where I am finding myself, at most times, to be moving forward with "a quiet, steady perseverance." This is encouraging.  
{4. Patience P: an amazing light in my life who brings me great joy; a beautiful, amazing person: to spend time with Patience on New Year's Eve is a sign of great things for the year ahead and a blessing}.


As much as on one extreme (and I am choosing to focus on this end of the pendulum swing) I am bursting at the seams for gratefulness in my healing, I am still impatient.  Setbacks in energy, increases in pain and limitations of my ability where I had recently gained ground are incredibly frustrating.  


I am contented to know that Arden is on his final night shift; after he started this set working through from the 26th, I've been on a challenging path.  Despite the fact that I am so thankful to be able to spend more time caring for these amazing boys, I long for the energy that I once possessed.  The onset of the flu bug on the 26th, the break from school (4 children 24/7) and the lengthy days have kept me stretched to capacity.  


My heart frequently hurts in disappointment in having to decline an invitation, delay a dream or defer an event for another time.  As a verse in Proverbs points out, this longing of another time is a tree of life.  


It is in this season of my life that I've been weathering many storms.  I am working at walking through these storms faithfully, recognizing the need to seek God's strength continually.  In the last few days, my eyes were opened to this passage from Mark. 

He saw that they were in serious trouble, rowing hard and struggling against the wind and waves. About three o'clock in the morning Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. He intended to go past them,

Jesus was about to walk by the boat.  


Interesting.  He saw they were in serious trouble so He came out on the water to help.  He came out. on. the. water. at. three. in. the. morning.  (For those of you who know what a grammar nerd I am, you know how hard it is for me to add all those superfluous periods... but I thought writing in ALL CAPS seemed too much like shouting and that's my last intention here).  


I have to tell you: He has come through for me each and every time - when I'm in serious trouble, battling the wind and waves - in the middle of the night when the tears have created their own flood.  He comes toward us.  I thought it was profound that He came out on the water but that He was intending to go past them.  That's the God that I know: ready to save us, but respecting our free will.  It is only when we cry out (verse 49) that we can let Him in.   Another thing that amazed me is that the disciples didn't know that they were seeing Him; sometimes the hand of God is most apparent when we least expect it.


Sometimes Christ walks through our crisis dressed in the best disguise of all: ordinary events.  He tucks a miracle in the fold of His robe and sweeps in and out unnoticed. Only in retrospect do we realize that a divine visitation graced our cold, crude winter and the resurrection of spring is on its way. [...] Just to know that we are significant to God and He's willing to orchestrate a holy set-up to speak to us is monumental to every woman who ever feared she was invisible or unremarkable.

[Beth Moore, Esther: What Goes Around]  

Finishing the passage in Mark, Jesus tells them to "Take courage!  It is I.  Don't be afraid."  8 simple words, but a gift of a world of peace.

Take courage.

I am reverently taking it while seeking His face and leaving my fear behind.

Never lacking in inspiration, this path has made me live in a depth (deep calls to deep) that I've never known.

I am so grateful for joy. "Now IT is Somer Now": joy makes this January of pain, grief, and challenge summer for me.  I am bolstered by a thousand gestures of love each day.  In some of the hardest moments, music often pulls me through: Restless and Long Way Home, and - for something completely different - Here in this moment are on my playlist.  The encouragement I receive from my sorority of faithful loved ones is incredible.  There are blessings upon blessings - miracles - in each and every day.

It is in the middle of the physical pain that I am humbly aware once again of God's providence.  It is in the middle of pure emotional collapse that I recognize that fragile transparency that I am called to.  It is in the middle of the longest, loneliest night - when it is most hardest to praise Him - that whilst I'm persevering despite frailty, I feel His presence the most.

{See?  My nerdy grammar ways are further revealed: I used whilst in the blog :).}

If it is through a wealth of experience that we are enriched with the capacity to love in extraordinary ways...
if it is through trial that our faith transforms from a philosophy into a way of living...
if it is through illness and pain that our lives gain purpose and perspective...
and if it is through winter that we learn patience and a appreciation for the summer that comes, I can say for certain that, for me, it is well worth the wait.

Choices

res·o·lu·tion 1. The state or quality of being resolute; firm determination. 2. A resolving to do something. 3. A course of action determined or decided on. choice 1. The act of choosing; selection. 2. The power, right, or liberty to choose; option. 3. One that is chosen. 4. A number or variety from which to choose. 5. The best or most preferable part. 6. Care in choosing. 7. An alternative.

It was many years ago that I had resolved not to make resolutions on the eve of a new year.  Instead my goal was to make choices.  Where resolutions are firm, choices allow for compassion.  I knew that I would still be making choices for big picture planning as I went along but, more importantly, I'd be making conscious choices for each and every moment.

This journey has allowed me the ability to re-evaluate the choices which are important to me.  My decisions these days are often rooted in my humble attempts to live a purpose-driven life.  There are threads of this purpose woven throughout my journeys which means that my life is (and I am) a continual work in progress.  

Healing is also a work in progress.  However, despite having still a way to go, I am in awe to find myself in such a place of functional health.  In God's healing, my functionality has increased to a place of what I consider miraculous ability: the strength (and extra hands) He has given me have helped me even though I've been feeling overextended to get through the sicknesses of these four little boys while Arden has been working lengthy days and nights.  I choose to be in a place of thankfulness.

I am thankful for choice.  I find myself making a lot of little choices that are ending up to be significant on the big picture.  There is freedom in letting go, paring down and eliminating those little things and habits that have hindered me.  They have to go.  I'm no longer collecting anything that holds me back from living my primary purpose of living a life of love.  Cheesy, I know... but I believe it.

I'm not writing this post as an entry against resolutions; in fact, I look at resolutions as decisions as to where we are going to place our love.  Name a resolution, I'll track the source back to love.  A lot of our resolutions are designed for a positive conclusion.  For example, taking the top ten resolutions here, relationship love is at the core of 'wanting to spend more time with family and friends' or a love for healthy living and a love for self is rooted in 'wanting to get fit'.

In making choices, I am making the decision to look at the means for change (love) rather than the perceived result.

All the same, resolutions don't allow for us to change in big ways. When we're too rigid in our thinking, we limit our potential which means that we can't transform our lives.  Ultimately, we change the manifestation but not the heart of the matter.  I think that we are often in situations where we feel that the circumstances are too much for us and therefore, living our lives the way we want to - in freedom, in love - is not possible.  These ideals are something to be invested in as an after thought or put off until... well, later.  If it's something we can have after we've done everything else we've got to do then we're a few steps ahead.  We'll get to it down the road when we get things together; when it's less busy; when we have more resources.

But one of the beauties of life is that we never get things all together.  This is a good thing because if we ever feel that we've got it together, we stop growing.  We never get less busy the way we expect we will and when we have more resources we may just find that we don't have more time.  What if our busyness is distracting us from a bigger plan for our lives?  I'm writing this because I feel that it is so essential to think about it and I'm writing it from a point of view of someone who has traveled there and back again.  This moment is all about choice: live right now.  Love right now.

If given every choice, how would you live this next year out?   It's not about considering what you would do but rather how you would live.

I'm discovering through my continued journey of faith and discovery that love and freedom and grace can be a way of life.  That means that I can deal with situations which make me envision a Gary Larson Far Side box drawn around them and still persevere.

It may not always be pretty but it is a mess-iful, bountiful, miraculous and wonderful life.

This photo represents so many miracles to me (fodder for another post, another time).

But those who plan what is good find love and faithfulness ~ Proverbs 14:22b